Finding Mr. Right

So you’re out there.  You know what I mean.  You hide in that empty cell of a house and wait for nothing.  The days turn into weeks and the week turn into months and the months turn into years.  Then one day, just by chance you meet him.  That devastatingly, ruggedly, handsome man.  He tells you everything you ever wanted to hear.  When you are with him you feel invincible.  He smells good, he looks good, he talks the talk but does he walk the walk?  Yes, he does look good from a distance but when you really get to know him--I mean really know him--he is not so good.  You try to dismiss that little voice that says DANGER AHEAD.  First he says that cutting remark that makes you feel like you just got hit by a mack truck.  Oh, he is just having a bad day, you say.  Next comes the ignorance is bliss disease.  He didn’t call because he fell asleep on the couch.  What underwear in the back seat of my car?  I never saw it before in my life.  The number on the pager that keeps coming up.  He is going out of town with his “War buddies.”  When he comes home with a  gift T-shirt from his “trip” you stumble upon a phone number he carelessly leaves on the counter.  Then the staged arguments and he stays away for a couple of days.  He calls and tells you he is sorry and that he just needed some space.  But you are so thrilled to have a chance with a man like him, who just rocks your world, that you forgive him.  The sad thing about it is that he may have a different face than the previous guy but he is that certain type of man that just turns you on and on.  The one who breaks your heart and takes your soul. 

Being in such a chaotic situation will keep you so wrapped up that you don’t see the forest from the trees.  You won’t be able to tell that as a godly woman you have just fallen into a trap that Satan led you in.  You are allowing the cares of this world to steal your joy.  You may even feel mad at God thinking that if He really loved you he would have dropped that perfect man into your lap.  But God is not interested in you being comfortable.  In fact he wants you to be uncomfortable.  Uncomfortable enough to start depending on Him.  He wants to perfect your character.  He wants you to receive Jesus as your savior.  Jesus is your Mr. Right.  Develop a relationship with Him because he created you, and He is your Father, your brother, your friend, your confidant, and mostly He is your husband.  If you look to Him first the rest will be a piece of cake.  If you get to know Him you will be able to identify that godly man when He comes into your life.  Jesus was a responsible man.  He took on the job that God gave Him even unto death.  Your earthly man should be responsible with his time, money, talents, and job.  He should be your protector,  fearlessly defending you at all costs.  He should be even willing to die for you.  Jesus had purpose.  An earthly man should know why he was created and use his God-given purpose to serve God.  If his purpose in life is hunting or fishing then it is safe to say that he has no idea why he was created.  I am by no means demeaning those sports, all things are good in moderation.  Jesus prayed.  Your man must be a man of prayer.  He should spend quality time in the word of God and in prayer.  Jesus was honest.  You don’t want to become involved with someone who lies or can’t follow through with promises.  He should be trustworthy.  Jesus loves us.  He was compassionate.  If your guy is hard as nails with no compassion when you are sad or ill drop him like a bad habit.  If he is narcissistic run.  Look for someone that puts your needs in front of his own.  If being with him leads you  to Christ instead of away from Christ you know you have someone who loves you. Jesus was kind.  Look for a man that loves children, animals and  women.  Watch how he acts towards significant women in his life.  If he shows concern and kindness towards them then chances are he will be the same towards you.  Jesus was a good communicator.  Your guy should be able to talk freely to you.  Look out for someone who is guarded and doesn’t want to talk about his childhood or seems to keep family secrets.  Chances are if you encounter this you will find some skeletons in that closet.  Jesus quoted scripture.  If your man is one who knows scripture and isn’t afraid of using it then the two of you can spend many wonderful moments in the word getting closer to our Lord. 

A danger that I would like to warn you about is don’t spend all your waking moments desperately looking for a mate.  Focus on changing yourself and see what God can do if you turn over your situation to Him.  He will allow you to grow and have a deeper and more meaningful relationship with Him.  You will get strong and you will wake up one morning and realize that the desperate little girl you once were has turned into a godly woman.  You have all of eternity to know God and there is so much to know.  Love Him with your whole heart, soul and mind.  He will make all the wrongs right.  That is when you will know you found Mr. Right.