Completion in Christ-single life

Completion in Christ
By Nancie Atkinson

So brethren, in whatever situation or state or condition of life each one was when he was called, let him continue there, with and close to God…..Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be free. Are you free from a wife? Do not seek a wife. I Corinthians 7:24,27 (Amplified Version)

Many people today are faced with the challenge of finding themselves single after a committed relationship. It leaves them feeling depressed, worthless, lonely, unacceptable, and full of doubt. Things that were once routine now have become just shadows or memories of times gone past. A flashback comes to mind of days in younger years where you stood in a lineup of kids waiting to be picked for a team. Two sides lined up and one by one the team members were called. Standing there in anticipation you heard the name upon name and you weren’t called. Finally, the last two people stood there. Your heart was pounding, The name was announced and it wasn’t yours. Humiliation and disappointment filled your heart and mind. You were that one person that nobody wanted. And now you are in the same situation. All your friends and family members are in some sort of relationship. You are the one who sits in that lonely apartment night after night. You come home from work and look at the answering machine and no one has called. Friday night rolls around. You feel that you should be doing something with somebody. But everyone has a life except you. So you are faced with a crossroad. Shall you stay focused on the pity pot? Or should you believe the truth. The truth is that in spite of your aloneness you are a person with God given talents, abilities and callings. Yes, God is calling YOU. Because there is no better time than now to use those talents for God. Satan would like nothing better than to beat you over the head and tell you that to become complete you have to have someone else. What was that line in Jerry McGuire? You complete Me. But think back a little. The loneliest days are behind you now. Because there is no greater loneliness than to be in a loveless marriage. Am I right? Baby, if you felt like half a person before you got married then I can guarantee you that it won’t get any better being married. If you try to draw your wholeness from another person you are putting some burden on that marriage. Because the truth is Jerry McGuire no one….I repeat….no one can make you feel complete. The only fulfillment you will ever know is gaining a deeper relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. But you say, “God said himself that it is not good for man to be alone.” But God wants you to find Him first and then the rest will follow. God wants you to develop the qualities that will let you give Him your absolute best all the time. You should be praising God for this time to develop those qualities. Whatever gifts the Lord has blessed you with take those gifts and serve humanity with them. Wait a minute you say. I don’t have what it takes. Didn’t Moses say the exact same thing? And look where God took him. So, my friend, get off that pity pot. Get out there. Use those talents and see where the Lord takes you. It will be a place that is so blessed you won’t have time to worry about who is on your answering machine tonight. I promise.